Self-sabotage is an unconscious act that appears especially before situations involving a great responsibility or when a person must make an important decision which will imply some kind of change in his or her life. This behaviour tends to hinder the achievement of goals through unconscious self-manipulations.
The goal of self-sabotage behaviour is to keep the person in their comfort zone, where everything is easy or, at least, foreseeable. It is also a type of unconscious defence mechanism through which the person tries to avoid possible future suffering, stress situations or unknown situations.
Symptoms or manifestations experienced by a person that is self-sabotaging include:
Intense fear
Insecurity.
A sensation of lack of control.
Lack of self-confidence.
Each of us perceives these sensations when it is about to suffer some kind of change in its life, is something that we all experience to a greater or lesser degree.
The main difference is that people who self-sabotage are not going to get the goal or the change because of their fears and beliefs, while people who do not self-sabotage are able to leave behind these fears and overcome all the thoughts that generate insecurity.
The most important thing when we face any challenge or transformation is not to dodge this fear, we have to be aware of it and act in a consistent manner, without letting it dominate our mind.
How do I recognize if I am self-sabotaging?
There are four kinds of self-sabotage:
1. Do not finish things: the person starts a large number of challenges or projects which just leaving half or even abandoning. Usually, the person tends to spend many hours of work and effort, for then discontinue when it is about to achieve this.
2. Procrastination: It consists in the habit of postponing or delaying those activities that the person must attend necessarily, replacing them by others less significant or more simple and attractive.
3. Perfectionism: Perfectionism or the ideal excuse to never end. The person finds the perfect excuse not to move forward, without seeming to really know if you want to get what you are working. There are two possibilities within the excuse of perfectionism. First, the person thinks that because it cannot do something perfect directly do not do it; second, that through constant revisions and changes avoid finishing the project.
4. Excuses: In Addition to all of the above, the person can find a large number of excuses to justify not facing any change or possible risk. These excuses can be from lack of time, economic resources, age, etc.
Dare to LIVE! Get out of your comfort zone!!!
Take care of yourself, it is important…
